Health ~ Coping ~ Grief
natural to feel grief after a loss, allowing it to flow its course will
help reach acceptance and peace.
It can be material, a loved one but also hopes, dreams and even values.
The path of the descent in hell and back to recovery is different between
people because lives are all unique. The event, the coping mechanisms known,
the support around, the weight of responsibilities, the other crisis adding
weight and even health are among many factors that can make the impact and
its consequences differ, even within the same person. Grief can accumulate
if left ignored, so an event that seemed insignificant can be the last drop
that makes the glass shatter.
There’s much more information about “The
5 Stages of Loss and Grief
” at psychcentral. They focus
on death of the body, but loosing what we cherish can still be agonizing,
no metter how trivial it can seem to someone who's not concerned. Our heart
choose the value of everything beyond money, even the one of our very life.
It's not about worth.
While it's important to hold on and take care, sometimes the best is to
let go and accept to let existence follow its natural course... so we can
go on, when we are ready.
Here are the phases, the order varies:
- Denial and Isolation
good news is that once you reach complete despair, this isn't the end. Soon
after is the chance to rebuild your world anew, reborn to life. Sometimes
even better than you ever hoped and dreamt possible. Who knows~ Maybe even
in death itself.
Accept the natural flow of life~
It takes you toward sadness, but if you let go, it will also take
you away from it... and into happiness again.
All you can do is enjoy it while it last.
Lisa Of Shades
22 August 2013
You can't heal away traumatic memories; you can only accept the past and
dilute the bad with better new memories, by enjoying
If you learn from it you can avoid seeing the pattern
repeat itself. If you welcome change within yourself,
it will spread out.
Sometimes to improve you need to be a less good
person, for others, so you can be a better one to yourself. It's not a sin,
it's self care
. Mind blowing isn't it~ It's also
better for others: once you truly have love and joy for yourself, you can
share it genuinely, without hidden agendas to feel appreciated
because you feel it on your own at life itself. It's an amazing way to see,
feel and live; even if hardship continues to rain, you'll have a constructive
that will have a different impact on you and the results.
BUT you can heal the PHYSICAL damage that the stress
did to your entire body
, especially to the adrenal glands. That's
where stress is handled, not in your head, but a tired and malnourished
body affects your mind. Moving on will be easier with
a healed body
than with broken legs or damaged vital internal organs.
Give yourself time, rest and usable organic
foods to heal your organs
not chemicals or dry dead grains.
Read more about the effects of stress and how to heal your vital organs
in my section: Adrenal
fatigue vitamin C
is the greatest healing tool when you provide enough
. 2-4g is a good
maintenance but much more may be required to catch up to a deficiency.
Lisa Of Shades
24 October 2013
Next, coping techniques: Vent anger for
balance & inner peace